It Needs to be Done
Every once in awhile I get asked the question:
“What do you do if you get sick?”
There really isn’t an answer to that question. Not at all.
This weekend was a perfect example of that.
I have a back problem, a chronic one. It’s not something I complain regularly about (okay, not much) but it’s always there. From years of carrying tons of gear around and doing it the wrong way – yes . . . I was stupid in my youth . . . my spine compressed in the last few vertebrae. My back, you see, has the discs get closer and closer together as they go down.
I don’t know what I did. Sometimes it’s something stupid, like getting up off the couch and you feel it strain. The entire weekend I’ve been in agony.
So what do you do when that happens?
You parent like always.
It’s not something you have a choice about. There were four days’ worth of laundry to wash, fold, and put away. I made the kids put the clothes away. There were dinners to be made. Sure, they could try and cook one but we’d have Mac and Cheese or sandwiches each night. They need (and so do I) something a bit healthier than that.
The house was disgustingly dirty. I’d had a lot of late hours last week and didn’t have time to oversee all the cleaning and chores and as a result they were, let’s just say, neglected. Add to that the normal weekend cleaning that we need to do and suddenly things are a hairy.
Then do that with shooting pain down your leg every time you bend.
I didn’t do this as a martyr. My kids didn’t sit and play videogames while I cried “woe is me, my children don’t care!” No . . . they worked. But even with four of us working the house doesn’t get clean easily. While one did the kitchen another did the sinks, I did toilets (because, god forbid they clean up their own pee and what have you). One dusted everything and then I vacuumed.
I made brownies, which is pretty simple. Once I was upright, I was fine. It’s getting upright that’s an issue.
The same thing happens if I get a cold or the flu or strep or any other disease.
The difference now, compared to if some other issue was to have happened, is my kids worried about me.
“Do you need to go to the doctor,” my son asked?
“No, this just happens. If it gets worse I’ll go.”
When I lie down to ease the pressure on my back they put blankets on me. When I got up they asked if I needed to take medicine.
My kids, you see, lost one parent. They don’t really want to lose another, not right now. I get that . . . and they won’t, not if I can help it.
So yes . . . I work through all the illnesses and the injuries. The thing is . . . now, I just don’t do it alone.